Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Happy (Belated) Fourth of July


This is our TENTH cheesy year of matching Old Navy Flag Tees. And the first year of real resistance from one of our children. I am sure there are many more years of that to come. The tradition lives on though folks, though I did tell her she only had to wear it long enough for the picture. (Unfortuneately for her, it seems that the tees aren't the offensive part, it's participating in the photo. )

Also, finally downloaded pictures. Many posts in the making.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Shh. Don't tell, but I think I'm getting old...

The week I spoke in church I got to really listen to the meeting. It isn't that I don't try to listen other weeks, it's just that I am trying to listen while bouncing a baby, handing out a snack, helping with a sticker book, refereeing between children, and doing a lot of shushing while trying to listen. So I miss details.

Anyway, so the week I spoke I was listening to Bro J. who spoke after me. He started with something to the gist of: "I've been doing a lot of reflecting lately, what with having another birthday and also hitting a decade since I finished my undergrad."

And I thought (literally, welcome to my stream of consciousness):

"Wow, he's older than I thought. He's already been out of college 10 years. And I thought he was just a few years older than I am. Hmmm...let's think...how long has it been for me? I graduated in 2000....Holy crap.** I've been out of school for 10 years."

And then my thoughts went silent, and I just felt old.

Now I know there are a lot of people older than I am--who probably either think I'm ridiculous for feeling this way, or who I should apologize to as I am probably making them feel old just by sharing my feelings here--and I know I'll get even older.

But somehow in my mind I'm still a young newly married, even though my five children and ever-increasing age would evidence the contrary. And lately the evidence seems to be building at an alarming rate.

My oldest daughter is approaching TEN. And she is spending the night without me (or any family member) for the first time ever. Sniff. And she will do very well. Even if I am not. (She has been at Girl Scout day camp all week and the last night there is a sleepover option for the girls in 4th grade and up.)

And my second daughter will be baptized in August. TWO kids who are already that old.

And my third, fourth, and fifth, just keep hitting growing spurts. They are older and more independent everyday.

So I must be getting older too. And I feel it. I am so so tired at night. Me, the night owl! And if I don't get 8 hours of sleep at night these days, I'm super dragging. Went to bed at 2 last night, so you can only imagine how I'm feeling at the moment. But I'm too young to wimp out now!

And yet here it is only 9:38 PM, and wimping out is all I can think to do. I can barely keep my eyes open.

Sleep well my friends.

**Please excuse this phrase...I'm sure I could have thought of a nicer one, but that is just what came to mind at the moment.


PS In honor of the girl out camping tonight (in cabins, fortuneately)...here are a couple of photos of Max at the boys church campout.


Apparently he acquired a reputation as the boy who made the best marshmallows. Love those golden brown awesome ones. Way to go Max!


Doesn't a delicious freshly made campfire smore sound awesome!

Monday, June 21, 2010

Motherhood is not for the faint of heart, and a message of hope

Today was one of those roller coaster days with my children. Now I will say that I do adore my children. I admire their brilliance and have confidence in their talents. I also have confidence that part of their role on earth is to build my patience, and they work hard in that role.

Up: The Actress is so excited to go to Girl Scout camp. We found an acceptable hat on the way (thanks Walgreens) and made it there on time.

Down: The Artist got out of the car in the rain to whine and whine at me while I waited for the camp bus to pull away.

Up: The kids agreed to go to Great Harvest and Trader Joe's for yumminess.

Down: Max whined and cried something FEROCIOUS on the way. So much so, that I turned around so I could head back home before he decided to clam up because he really wanted more yummy bread and watermelon.

Up: Great Harvest Cinnamon rolls and Trader Joe's 99 cent pizza dough.

Down: Little Mommy and the Artist contending against each other on the way home. Little Mommy's lungs are quite powerful.

Up: I finally got them to laugh and settled after pulling the car over and telling them they were in a happy car that only went forward when the occupants were happy. (Took other funniness on my part, but they were laughing when we pulled away.) Score 1 for the Mommy.

Down: The Artist was so mad at me that she forgot her towel for swim lessons. What?

Up: The kids played pretty nicely together in the basement after lunch while I cleaned out a kitchen shelf and the top of the fridge.

Down: Pretty much the whole two hours after we picked the Actress up from camp. She needs a t-shirt to tie-dye tomorrow and was so picky. We went to KMart (which I despise but it was closest). Kids were obnoxious and I walked out without purchasing what was in my cart due to the combination of the kids and the person in front of me who was taking 15 minutes to check out because they didn't understand how to use a rebate card. The Artist kept telling me basically how awful I am and how I don't love her. Then we do Target. Holy cow was that another adventure. At least I like Target though! But not so much with five unruly children. The Artist told me that I didn't love her if I didn't go back to KMart on the way home. Seriously? Seriously? I came back with a super awesome response of, "That's like me saying you don't love me if you don't eat my boogers." My stand-up comic skills were so phenomenal on the way home that The Actress kept struggling not to laugh. (Cause she was being mad about the whole shirt business and I was ruining her pout.)

Up: Making the pizza with Max. Best time of the whole day. He loved spreading the sauce, putting on the cheese, and arranging the pepperoni. He did a great job.

Down: Continually being berated by the Artist and Little Mommy about how I don't like them or love them. Also, Max stealing a book from Princess when he is supposed to be getting buckled and walloping me when I retrieve it for her.

Up: Picking Mr. Bloomers up from the train and seeing Max light up as there were TWO freight trains on the track.

Down: Getting the kids to bed with the exception of...

Up: when we sang "I Feel my Savior's Love" after scriptures and before prayer.

Down: The Actress continuing to lament about the t-shirt problem. Only 3 acceptable choices (to me). None are acceptable to her. And the poor girl just needs some sleep! It was a long day for her.

Up: This clip. Seriously, it made my day. And the thought that I actually stayed pretty even-tempered and patient with my kids despite their horror today is an up feeling. Hoping tomorrow will be better.

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Be still and know that I am God

Travis passed away peacefully in his home on Friday. He lay cuddled with his eternal sweetheart Mandy who now presses forward to raise their four children. If anyone can do it and do it well, it's her.

I am grateful to understand that God has an eternal plan for us. Travis and Mandy's marriage and family are not permanently separated nor destroyed by T's death. I take great comfort in knowing that because of our Savior Jesus Christ, that we can all be resurrected again, and that this family will be reunited again.

Yet it is still hard. It is hard for me, so I can't even begin to imagine how it is for Mandy and the children and their closest friends and family. I pray for them and mourn with them from afar, and invite you to do the same. I know they have been blessed to feel deeply of the love of our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ for them, and pray that they may continue to do so.

T's obituary can be read here.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

And today I spoke in Sacrament Meeting

For those of you unfamiliar with LDS services, we meet each Sunday for THREE hours. The first hour and ten minutes is spent in family worship. All are together for hymns, prayers, the sacrament, and talks by members of the congregation. Yes, regular old members. Ours is a lay ministry, meaning we are a volunteer army and no one gets paid for their service (in fact, we even pay 10% in tithing to the church!).

When I was a little girl my Dad was the Bishop for a number of years. This put him in the role of pastor or father to the congregation. All the while, he continued to practice dentistry to support our family. We do not expect the Bishop to deliver a sermon each week. Instead, under his direction, members of the congregation are asked to prepare what we call a talk on an assigned topic.

Today there were three speakers. The first was a young man about to leave for his first year of college. I was the second speaker. The third speaker was an attorney, the husband of a good friend of mine and a father of two.

We were all asked to speak about building a testimony. I was told to plan on taking about 12 minutes. When I speak, I generally spend a good portion of time reading in the scriptures and other church materials on the topic. Then I put together an outline, and pretty much speak as inspired at the moment, based on my outline.

Yesterday, when I sat down to gel my thoughts for this talk and make my outline, I felt inspired to do things differently. I wrote the whole talk out. I have since realized that this is because I feel like this is a talk I am supposed to share. So I am.

If you are unfamiliar with some parts of LDS doctrine, the following background information may be helpful in understanding parts of my talk:

1. We have a prophet and apostles. Just as Jesus called 12 apostles when he was on the earth, we have a prophet and 12 apostles on the earth today.

2. A General Authority would be someone in a position of leadership over the whole church.

3. We believe that after Christ left the earth and sometime after his apostles died, that the authority to organize and direct Jesus Christ's church was lost from the earth. In 1820, Joseph Smith, confused about the number of churches with contrasting teachings, knelt before God asking in sincere prayer which church he should join. In answer to his humble prayer, Joseph saw God the Father and Jesus Christ. He was called as a prophet and given the authority to restore the church of Jesus Christ to the earth, with the fulness of his gospel. As part of the restoration, Joseph translated The Book of Mormon by the gift and power of God from ancient records kept by prophets who lived in the Americas.

4. Nephi is one of those prophets. Laman and Lemuel were his brothers. Lehi was his father. Lehi was also a prophet.

5. Mormon was another one of those prophets. He compiled and abridged a number of different records into one complete record. Because of his efforts, the book has been called The Book of Mormon.

6. We also accept the King James Version of the Bible in our canon.

7. Lucy Mack Smith is the mother of Joseph Smith.

8. As I mentioned, we have a lay ministry. We all accept church assignments and refer to them as callings. Until two weeks ago, I was serving as the Primary Chorister, which means I taught music to the children ages 3-11 every Sunday. I would have 20 minutes each with the older and younger ones, plus lead the music for our opening exercises. I love that calling, and have been able to do it twice. This time I was in the position for about 2.5 years.

9. Any questions? Feel free to leave a comment, or if you are more comfortable, email me at mindthemommy@gmail.com.


Now a picture just to give your eyes a rest as this is a lot of text for one post!!


Keep in mind that this was written to be spoken aloud, not to be read silently. And I do have sources for the quotes, even if I didn't put them down.

How to Build a Testimony
Sacrament Meeting Talk by Kristin
June 13, 2010

"Do not fear what may happen tomorrow. The same loving father who cares for you today will care for you tomorrow and every day. Either He will shield you from suffering, or He will give you unfailing strength to bear it. Be at peace, then, and put aside all anxious thoughts and imaginings."
-St. Francis of Assisi

My cousin-in-law Mandy’s husband Travis was diagnosed with cancer of the esophagus in February of 2008. This past Thursday hospice was called in. It has been quite a battle for this family with four young children.

I raised money for Travis and Mandy in running the IL Marathon last month. I have prayed for them. Fasted for them. Cried for them. And yet it is I who have benefitted from our interactions over the last couple of years.

I cannot begin to express how much I admire them. They have shown unyielding optimism, grace, and courage with a steadfast faith in Jesus Christ. There have been some very very difficult times through this cancer. I believe Mandy has exhibited more faith than she even thought she had. This was possible because of the many years that these devoted saints cultivated their testimonies of Jesus Christ and their faith in his plan for us.

When times were good, they were obedient. And when times were hard, they were also obedient. They have seen the hand of the Lord in their lives, even though his will at this time is not what we had hoped it might be.

And they have felt an underlying peace amidst the turmoil.

We can be like Mandy and Travis. Many of you are. Many of you have been, but maybe you need encouragement to step up your game again. In Alma 5:26 we are asked, “And now behold, I say unto you, my brethren, if ye have experienced a change of heart, and if ye have felt to sing the song of redeeming love, I would ask, can ye feel so now?”

And still others may just be beginning to build their testimonies. Whatever point we may be at, we are all in this journey together and we all have room to grow.

What is a testimony?

According to apostle Elder Robert D. Hales, “A testimony is the spirit of prophecy. It is a personal revelation from God, revealing the truthfulness of the gospel of Jesus Christ.” I love this doctrine of our church. The doctrine which says that we can know for ourselves. In fact, that we should and we must know for ourselves.

God the Father and Jesus Christ appeared to the boy prophet Joseph Smith. He was only 14 years old. After pondering what he had read in the Bible along with the words of local preachers, Joseph knelt before his maker with a firm testimony that his prayer would be answered.

And it was in a most remarkable way. I have not seen what Joseph saw, but I know that he saw it. I have visited the Sacred Grove. I have read the story. I have studied Joseph’s life. I have heard others testify. But that is not why I know.

As Elder Hales explains, “A testimony comes through the Holy Ghost; it makes a deep and lasting impression on the soul.”

I know that Joseph Smith saw God the Father and Jesus Christ and that he is the prophet of the restoration because the Holy Ghost has testified of these truths to my soul.

I find the accounts in 1 and 2 Nephi of Lehi and his family most interesting. Laman and Lemuel saw miracles. And yet they remained hard-hearted and unconverted. They did not receive of the Holy Ghost.

Nephi tells us that he has “seen many afflictions in the course of [his] days” yet, he also says that he has “been highly favored of the Lord in all his days;” Why does he consider himself highly favored though he goes through such extreme trials?

He answers: “Yea, having had a great knowledge of the goodness and the mysteries of God.”

Nephi calls himself favored of God because he recognizes the gift of his testimony. The absolute gift of having the Holy Ghost witness to him “great knowledge of the goodness and the mysteries of God.”

Now Laman and Lemuel would probably consider themselves picked on by God. They recognized that they didn’t have what Nephi had. Yet, when they complained about not understanding their father’s words, Nephi asked “Have ye inquired of the Lord?” They had not. The Lord will not drop a testimony in our laps when we have not sought for one.

So how do we build it? What do we do?

Today I’d like to present a six step plan for you based on the words “Desire peace.” Due to recent events with Travis, the greatest blessing of true testimony to me at this time is peace, so it only seems a fitting tribute to his example of faithfulness.

First, desire. We must desire a testimony. Even if our desire is small. Even if we only desire to desire a testimony. It has to start with us. We have agency and God respects this gift he has given us. We must approach the building of a testimony with a desire for the witness of the Holy Ghost in our hearts.

And now we’ll cover peace, letter by letter.

P is for ponder and pray over the messages of the gospel.

Lucy Mack Smith said of her son Joseph that he was “less inclined to the perusal of books than any of the rest of our children, but far more given to meditation and deep study.”

We must seek the words of the Lord through the scriptures, attendance at church meetings and family home evenings, and media such as that found on the church website or in the Ensign, particularly the General Conference editions. But merely reading or listening to these words will not sufficiently build our faith and testimonies. We must ponder over the meaning of what we’ve learned, even when it might be difficult. We can and should pray for understanding.

Nephi heard the words of his father Lehi in describing the vision of the tree of life. In 1 Nephi 11:1-3:

“For it came to pass after I had desired to know the things that my father had seen, and believing that the Lord was able to make them known unto me, as I sat pondering in mine heart I was caught away in the Spirit of the Lord, yea, into an exceedingly high mountain, which I never had before seen, and upon which I never had before set my foot.

And the Spirit said unto me: Behold, what desirest thou?

And I said: I desire to behold the things which my father saw.”

I LOVE this. Absolutely love this example. At this time Nephi is not yet a prophet. He is a member of the church. He has a great desire. He has faith. He seeks the word of God. He ponders over it, and he wants to know for himself. He goes before the Lord and receives his own amazing witness.

E is for expect the Lord to answer, and expect that we are capable of receiving those answers.

Brothers and sisters, I testify that special and sacred spiritual experiences accompanied by the witness of the Holy Ghost are not reserved for General Authorities or those in positions of leadership. We all can have powerful experiences which leave that deep and lasting impression on our soul as Elder Hales described.

Whether we serve in the nursery or as a family history worker. Whether we have ancestors that knew Joseph or whether we are newly baptized as the first convert in our family. Whether we are primary-aged or a great-grandparent. Male or female. We can expect the Lord to answer. We can expect the Holy Ghost to testify of these truths to our hearts.

As I shared in my last week as the Primary Chorister with the Senior Primary, Mormon was only 10 years old, TEN, when Ammaron pulled him aside and called him to be the keeper of the sacred records. He was given some years to continue his preparation, being told that he would take this responsibility on at age 24, yet he still received this calling when he was only 10. He had a solid testimony at the age of 10.

We are not perfect parents, but in our home we began a nightly devotional a few months before our oldest child was born which we have faithfully continued through the present day. We read in the scriptures, sing a church song, and hold family prayer each night before bed.

We teach our children that God knows them, and expect that they are capable of understanding more about the gospel than I believe many people expect that children can understand. We do not read a set amount of verses or pages. We do stop often along the way and discuss and explain and teach so our children can better understand what we have read.

A is for accept truth revealed and build on it.

The Lord has many ways to confirm the choice of a marriage companion. The witness I received that the Lord wanted for Dave and I to be married was truly powerful beyond my ability to adequately describe it.

A family member of mine was adamantly opposed to my choice to marry Dave, and wore me down over the months of our engagement. Because of my very close relationship with this person, I began to doubt the truth that had been revealed to me. It was a difficult time. A few weeks before our wedding day, I checked myself in to the Comfort Inn with inspirational music, my journal, and my scriptures as I needed to commune with God alone.

I obviously went through with the wedding. Nearly 12 years and five children later my only regret is that I did not hold fast to the truth which I had been given to know. I rejected the strong witness I had been given, desiring to have greater and additional, almost continual witnesses. And so I back-pedaled and experienced a great deal of darkness.

Though this example does not illustrate truth about a specific doctrine, I think it accurately shows what happens when we do not accept the truth we have been given through personal revelation and build on it. We will back-pedal and the light we had will be diminished rather than made brighter.

C is for course correct as necessary.

As we learn more about the principles of the gospel and God’s commandments, we must make course corrections in our lives so that we are living in harmony with the light and knowledge we have been given. Testimonies are built through obedience.

We cannot expect God to answer when we have not done our part to be worthy of such answers. Of course we will make mistakes. God does not expect perfection from us in this life. But when we recognize such mistakes, we must take action to utilize the Atonement, repent of our past sins, and strengthen our resolve against future sin.

On a related note, if we are struggling to build our testimony of a particular principle or commandment, from tithing or Sabbath day observance, to temple attendance or modesty, we must live the teaching first, and then the witness of the Holy Ghost will come and testify that it is true. Remember John 7:17, “If any man will do his will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God.”

E is for express your testimony and share it with others.

Bear your testimony in church and to your family. Bear it to your friends, maybe just explaining about a particular principle of the gospel which has blessed your life.

Make written records. Nephi, after explaining that he had a great knowledge of the goodness and the mysteries of God ended that first verse of 1 Nephi with “therefore, I make a record of my proceedings in my days.”

I testify that if you will make and share a record of the experiences that build your testimony, of thoughts and ideas which sink deep into your soul through the power of the Holy Ghost that they will be a blessing to those who read your words. They will strengthen your children. They will strengthen your friends, and they will strengthen you at times when you are struggling.

Building a testimony is vitally important to our eternal salvation. It is a lifelong pursuit. I challenge you to proactively desire peace by choosing one thing you can do better to build your testimony this week and then in the words of President Spencer W. Kimball, “Just do it.” To review the ideas I’ve shared:

1. Desire for your testimony to be strengthened.

2. Ponder and pray over the messages of the gospel.

3. Expect the Lord to answer, and expect that we are capable of receiving those answers.

4. Accept truth revealed and build on it.

5. Course correct as necessary.

6. Express your testimony and share it with others.

In conclusion, may I share these thoughts of Elder Hales:

“Most of us will not see God, as the prophets have, but the still, small promptings of the Spirit—the thoughts and feelings that the Holy Ghost brings into our minds and hearts—will give us an undeniable knowledge that He lives and that He loves us.

Gaining this knowledge is ultimately the quest of all God’s children on the earth....The strength and peace that come from knowing God and having the comforting companionship of His spirit will make your efforts eternally worthwhile.”

I testify that this is true. That Jesus Christ is real and that we are blessed with the opportunity and responsibility to know of the truthfulness of his gospel for ourselves. In the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Friday, June 11, 2010

When it rains it pours

Just sent this email to Mr. Bloomers (except I actually used our children's real names in it):


Picked M (friend) up on the way to speech. Had a miscommunication error (their fault) which canceled Little Mommy's appointment. Waited while it was sorted out. We did end up with the sub we were supposed to have.

Dropped M and Actress off at the Bishop's for their Valiant class swim party a little late thanks to the speech issue.

Picked Little Mommy up. Artist, Max, and Little Mommy were MELTING down as we left in a fight over who got to carry the keys to the car. Seriously. It was embarrassing.

Went to Target anyway despite the grumpiness. Needed a few things, including milk, eggs, etc. Tried to really hurry. Max melted down twice. Artist kept telling me how I NEVER buy her ANYTHING or do ANYTHING she wants me to.

Came out with cartful of stuff. Carrying Max over my shoulder as he pummels me. Didn't have time to reason with the last tantrum so I just treated him like a sack of potatoes. Princess was in the cart and...


TORRENTIAL DOWNPOUR. Seriously. Kids are screaming. Princess in terror being hit by rain. Groceries pummeled. Rain in my eyes causes my contacts to shift. I can barely see. Still holding Max (who isn't pummeling me anymore). Wishing we were closer to the entrance. It was a long walk. Like being in the shower in your clothes with a loaded grocery cart and four kids.

Throwing the kids and stuff in as fast as I can. Soaking to the skin. My underwear is sticking to me. Clothes are heavy. Hair dripping water down my back.

Max is crying that his clothes are ruined because they're wet.

I whooped it up and laughed because the only other choice was to cry.

And it stopped raining 90 seconds later as we were driving back to the Bishop's.

Good times.

PS These handsome photos of Mr. Bloomers in Max's Spidey goggles don't really relate to this post except that the photos are awesome and my contacts might not have bothered me had I been wearing goggles. Next time I'll be better prepared.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Good Idea

Earlier today I was cuddling on the couch with Max. He suddenly announced: "You know, Daddy is a pretty big guy. He is big enough to have a girl." He paused for a moment in thought, and then added, "You should get married to Daddy!"


Good idea.