This is my entry in the Just Ask Bucket List Getaway Giveaway. Just Ask offers a breast and ovarian cancer screening and is encouraging people to share 15 things that I want to enjoy in my lifetime as a reminder to be aware of my health. Want to enter? Head over to TodaysMama.com to get the details.
Share your list and you have a shot of winning a trip of a lifetime. The grand prizes are:
A family vacation of a lifetime to Universal Orlando® Resort.
A Las Olas Surf Camp Safari
Ski Lessons and stay at Park City Mountain Resort
And fifteen things from my bucket list (in random order):
1. barefoot water ski off the line (don't laugh...*only just* need to get back to marathon fitness level, and then some)
2. own a boat for the family and take the family out regularly (which would also help with number one)
3. spend a month one summer with my children living on someone's farm so we can understand what that is like
4. write a book
5. get my house as organized as it was 6 years ago, just before Little Mommy was born
6. speak at an EFY, or a women's conference, or something similar
7. learn to play the guitar
8. put on a concert with our family (when they're older)
9. learn how to drive a stick shift
10. go to bed before 10 PM every day for a whole month (I can't imagine how awesome I would feel for doing this)
11. take my kids to see Cats and Wicked and Les Mis
12. learn how to make my own bread
13. decide what I want to be, career-wise, in my post-young-children-who-are-home-all day season of life
14. write a song
15. go on a cruise
Leave me a comment with a link to your bucket list if you decide to enter.
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Friday, September 30, 2011
Why I should draft all permission slips
The Actress forgot to bring home the permission slip she needed for school so she could work with Skittles during science. I told her not to worry, that I'd make my own:
I give express permission for my daughter [the Actress] to experiment with Skittles at [the Actress's] Elementary. She may touch them, smell them, look at them, listen to them, and taste them. She may put them in water, vinegar, Sprite, juice, or any liquid substance known to be safe around fifth grade students. She may cut them up, twist them, group them, number them, name them, or photograph them. She may not, however, put them up her nose or in her ears.
Signed:___________________________Date:_________
I expect to be asked to draft all future permission slips. I thought of some better ideas after dropping the kids off to school, like permission to hot glue a Skittles mosaic, but I'm still pleased with my first draft written seven minutes before we needed to leave. Good thing the Actress's teacher has a great sense of humor!
I give express permission for my daughter [the Actress] to experiment with Skittles at [the Actress's] Elementary. She may touch them, smell them, look at them, listen to them, and taste them. She may put them in water, vinegar, Sprite, juice, or any liquid substance known to be safe around fifth grade students. She may cut them up, twist them, group them, number them, name them, or photograph them. She may not, however, put them up her nose or in her ears.
Signed:___________________________Date:_________
I expect to be asked to draft all future permission slips. I thought of some better ideas after dropping the kids off to school, like permission to hot glue a Skittles mosaic, but I'm still pleased with my first draft written seven minutes before we needed to leave. Good thing the Actress's teacher has a great sense of humor!
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
First Days
First days seem forever ago now for the older three. The younger two didn't start school until 2 weeks ago. At any rate, is it too early to be counting down to summer?
The Actress, Fifth Grade
The Artist, 3rd Grade
Little Mommy, kindergarten
Max, 4's preschool class
Princess, 3's preschool class
The preschoolers together. I love how Princess admires Max. They are such good buddies.
How could all of my children go to school now? It's so cliche, yet so darn true: they just grow up too fast.
The Actress, Fifth Grade
The Artist, 3rd Grade
Little Mommy, kindergarten
Max, 4's preschool class
Princess, 3's preschool class
The preschoolers together. I love how Princess admires Max. They are such good buddies.
How could all of my children go to school now? It's so cliche, yet so darn true: they just grow up too fast.
Sunday, August 14, 2011
And then the summer was over
School starts in only three days.
My third daughter goes to kindergarten and my fifth goes to preschool (provided we find potty training success in the next couple of weeks).
Next year I will have a middle schooler.
How often do I wish I could freeze my children as they are, in their sweet innocence at a time when the center of their world is our home and our family?
Maybe when they're gone more I'll make more time for writing, but in the meantime, I'm off to make a birthday cake and enjoy the company of my wild bunch.
My third daughter goes to kindergarten and my fifth goes to preschool (provided we find potty training success in the next couple of weeks).
Next year I will have a middle schooler.
How often do I wish I could freeze my children as they are, in their sweet innocence at a time when the center of their world is our home and our family?
Maybe when they're gone more I'll make more time for writing, but in the meantime, I'm off to make a birthday cake and enjoy the company of my wild bunch.
Saturday, July 2, 2011
Best day ever!
1. Dave mowed the lawn, and edged, and pulled some of our biggest weeds. This was HUGE.
2. We went swimming as a family and no major tantrums! Plus, Dave got to be there and we biked.
3. We rode our bikes to a local restaurant for dinner, which was way yummier (and more expensive) than expected, but so much fun! The place we planned on going to was closed, so we went to this little italian place instead. It was shockingly upscale considering its location between 7-11 and a liquor store. Who knew? Classic kid moment: When I asked Max whether he wanted pizza or pasta he answered, "Pizza with no leaf on it." Um, what? "There was a leaf on the pizza in the picture in the window." Still don't know what he saw.
4. Dessert at 7-11. Tried the Dove Magnum ice cream bar. Yummiest ice cream bar I've ever had. Creamy vanilla ice cream dipped in chocolate, THEN caramel, THEN milk chocoate. It was so amazing.
5. Rode home after 10. The kids THANKED us for taking them and went to bed. Okay, the little one still screamed about some random thing, but the others were pretty cooperative.
6. Really what made this day the best was having all of us together (Dave included) both working and playing and getting along. It doesn't get any better than that.
PS The photo has no connection to this post other than the fact that it, and this day, were awesome. (I didn't have my camera along on our outing.)
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Can you find the sleeping princess?
Though she cannot yet read, this little two and-a-half year old (she'll correct you if you forget the half) completely obsesses over books.
LOTS of them. Big piles all over the house and Suburban. And she screams rather loudly if you try to empty her bed so she'll fit better. Tonight, she even discarded her comforter in lieu of another pile.
And she likes Barbies too, both dressing and undressing them. Unfortuneately, she has only mastered the undressing part.
Fingers crossed that these early signs lead to college scholarships and an A in anatomy rather than a starring role in an episode of Hoarders.
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Ten by the Fourth starts tomorrow...
If you're on the fence, I say go for it!!! We'll let you join up to a week late, but why not start tomorrow? See the details in my previous post, with one amendment: if you would prefer I hold your cash rather than a check that works too!
Monday, May 2, 2011
Ten by the Fourth
I feel like Oprah's soul sister with our public ups and downs of weight management.
One year ago I ran a marathon.
Then I stopped running much.
Then I started eating more.
And more, as some rough things happened for me and I ate my way through them.
And now I'm back to square one again, almost. Bummer. I don't have any summer clothes in this size.
I need a little jumpstart to get on track and I thought maybe some of you do too! So I am inviting one and all to participate in the Ten by the Fourth Weight Loss Challenge.
Rules and fine print:
1. The challenge lasts eight weeks, beginning Monday, May 9th and ending on Monday, July 4th.
2. You must weigh in every Monday morning of the challenge in approximately the same weight of clothing. Meaning, if you do your first weigh-in with exercise clothes and running shoes, dress in like manner for future weigh-ins. If you do your first one in the buff, don't add clothing to later weigh-ins.
3. Your goal will be to lose 10 pounds or more. If you don't have that much to lose, congratulations!! Feel free to cheer me on if you see I'm exercising. If we're out together for dinner feel free to "accidently" knock my fork to the floor if I am reaching for a bite of dessert. I don't need it. (Then duck as I might be upset. :)
4. To participate, you must send a check to me for $20 and I must receive it by May 23rd. I will hold all checks, uncashed, until July 5th, and I promise not to lose them!
5. If your final weight is at least 10 pounds less than your starting weight, I will not cash your check. I will shred it.
6. If you do not succeed in losing at least 10 pounds, I will cash your check.
7. The top one (or two if it is reasonably close) weight loss champions by percentage of weight loss will receive the value of all checks cashed. They'll be skinnier AND have some extra money. Win win!!!
8. The challenge is open to my friends, and friends of my friends...feel free to pass the word along. Email me or facebook message me for my address if you need to mail a check.
Hoping for great participation!!!
One year ago I ran a marathon.
Then I stopped running much.
Then I started eating more.
And more, as some rough things happened for me and I ate my way through them.
And now I'm back to square one again, almost. Bummer. I don't have any summer clothes in this size.
I need a little jumpstart to get on track and I thought maybe some of you do too! So I am inviting one and all to participate in the Ten by the Fourth Weight Loss Challenge.
Rules and fine print:
1. The challenge lasts eight weeks, beginning Monday, May 9th and ending on Monday, July 4th.
2. You must weigh in every Monday morning of the challenge in approximately the same weight of clothing. Meaning, if you do your first weigh-in with exercise clothes and running shoes, dress in like manner for future weigh-ins. If you do your first one in the buff, don't add clothing to later weigh-ins.
3. Your goal will be to lose 10 pounds or more. If you don't have that much to lose, congratulations!! Feel free to cheer me on if you see I'm exercising. If we're out together for dinner feel free to "accidently" knock my fork to the floor if I am reaching for a bite of dessert. I don't need it. (Then duck as I might be upset. :)
4. To participate, you must send a check to me for $20 and I must receive it by May 23rd. I will hold all checks, uncashed, until July 5th, and I promise not to lose them!
5. If your final weight is at least 10 pounds less than your starting weight, I will not cash your check. I will shred it.
6. If you do not succeed in losing at least 10 pounds, I will cash your check.
7. The top one (or two if it is reasonably close) weight loss champions by percentage of weight loss will receive the value of all checks cashed. They'll be skinnier AND have some extra money. Win win!!!
8. The challenge is open to my friends, and friends of my friends...feel free to pass the word along. Email me or facebook message me for my address if you need to mail a check.
Hoping for great participation!!!
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
The best show and tell ever!
At the preschoolers' school, it is a special privilege to be the snack person. Not only do you get to bring snack, but you are first in line for everything AND you get to do a show and tell.
Since they only attend three days per week, and each kid has about 18 students in their classes, it can be tough to wait the long days until one's turn comes around again.
Last week Little Mommy was the snack girl.
She and the Artist have had some wonderful bonding time recently playing Barbies, and what Little Mommy most wanted to share with her class, was how special that time playing Barbies with her big sister has been.
She asked if I would take some pictures of them, and happily took two Barbies and a photo to school.
If only they would always get along like this!!
Since they only attend three days per week, and each kid has about 18 students in their classes, it can be tough to wait the long days until one's turn comes around again.
Last week Little Mommy was the snack girl.
She and the Artist have had some wonderful bonding time recently playing Barbies, and what Little Mommy most wanted to share with her class, was how special that time playing Barbies with her big sister has been.
She asked if I would take some pictures of them, and happily took two Barbies and a photo to school.
If only they would always get along like this!!
Sunday, April 17, 2011
My son the thug
A friend of mine asked if Max was dressed up as a thug for church today.
What do you think?
It was chilly today, and this responsible guy retrieved his own hat and gloves from the bin without being asked. Am I complaining? No. We had to be there early to rehearse with the choir for our family's part in the Easter service next week and I'm just grateful for any help I can get from the children.
Mr. Bloomers has to be at the church three hours before our services begin for meetings, so I'm on my own getting us all ready week after week.
Max insists that it is better to wear the tie on the outside of the vest so people can see it better.
I think he's a handsome guy either way.
Even if he does look like a thug.
And I know I'm lucky to be his mama.
Sunday, April 3, 2011
It's been one week
since Grandpa passed away.
Last Sunday morning my mom and I got to the care home around 8:15 AM. I held Grandpa's hand while Mom and I visited. A while later I reread the cards from our family to Grandpa. Then I shared some of the notes from members in his church congregation as part of a birthday surprise sent last November. I was touched by their love for him, and by the great impact he had made on so many through a life so well lived.
His breathing had continued to slow down and become more irregular. And then suddenly I looked at him and saw his color change.
I whispered, "Mom, I think he's going."
She rose from her chair across the room and drew close to his bedside with me, stroking his remaining hair while I held his hand. We told him again how much we loved him.
Mom requested, "Say hi to Grandma for me, and tell Kathy how much I miss talking to her." Mom's younger and only sister Kathy died about a year and a half ago of cancer.
We reminded him yet again of our love, as if he could doubt it, and watched as he took his last breaths and the pulse in his neck weakened and then ceased.
Time of death: 9:25 AM.
I continued to hold his hand as we waited for Uncle John, Mom's only brother, who was on his way. A very long fifteen minutes later he took a turn by the bedside to say his goodbyes. Though Grandpa's spirit had left his 95 year old body, I know his spirit remained until John had come. John has been an ever faithful son and brother and I would be thrilled if Max grew to be like him in showing such pure love and care for his family.
The rest of the day was a bit of a blur. The hospice nurse came to pronounce. Two of Grandpa's dearest friends and his Bishop came to the care home. We reminisced about Grandpa's amazing life, and his tremendous Christ-like qualities. The mortician, who had known Grandpa for decades, arrived to lovingly take his body away.
I flew home Monday to be with the children and began preparations for a return trip to California, Thursday-Saturday, so Mr. Bloomers and I could gather with family and friends for Grandpa's funeral on Friday.
I was one of the speakers. Just as I have put off this post, I put off writing the talk until the middle of the night before the funeral. I finally got to bed somewhere between 4:30 and 5 AM Chicago time. I think somehow I wanted to believe that if I didn't write about Grandpa's death, that it wouldn't be real.
Grandpa has been the rock of our family for 95 years. He made us all feel like we were his favorite. He reached out in love and took a genuine interest in all people: family, friends, and strangers. He accepted and loved us for who we were, but yet encouraged us to be better and empowered us to believe that we could be.
Grandpa lived his life as a true disciple of Jesus Christ. I know better what it would be like to be in the presence of my Savior and feel of his love, because I know how Grandpa loved me.
And I know he still does.
Though my heart aches knowing that I can never again call his home and hear his cheerful and enthusiastic greeting, I am filled with joy to know that his mother and father finally have their eight children gathered with them again, that Grandma has her husband of 72 earthly years together, and that Kathy has her parents to be with her.
Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ, his resurrection and power over death, and the Priesthood, families can be forever.
This I know and do not doubt, but though this knowledge eases the pain of loss it does not take it away.
Last Sunday morning my mom and I got to the care home around 8:15 AM. I held Grandpa's hand while Mom and I visited. A while later I reread the cards from our family to Grandpa. Then I shared some of the notes from members in his church congregation as part of a birthday surprise sent last November. I was touched by their love for him, and by the great impact he had made on so many through a life so well lived.
His breathing had continued to slow down and become more irregular. And then suddenly I looked at him and saw his color change.
I whispered, "Mom, I think he's going."
She rose from her chair across the room and drew close to his bedside with me, stroking his remaining hair while I held his hand. We told him again how much we loved him.
Mom requested, "Say hi to Grandma for me, and tell Kathy how much I miss talking to her." Mom's younger and only sister Kathy died about a year and a half ago of cancer.
We reminded him yet again of our love, as if he could doubt it, and watched as he took his last breaths and the pulse in his neck weakened and then ceased.
Time of death: 9:25 AM.
I continued to hold his hand as we waited for Uncle John, Mom's only brother, who was on his way. A very long fifteen minutes later he took a turn by the bedside to say his goodbyes. Though Grandpa's spirit had left his 95 year old body, I know his spirit remained until John had come. John has been an ever faithful son and brother and I would be thrilled if Max grew to be like him in showing such pure love and care for his family.
The rest of the day was a bit of a blur. The hospice nurse came to pronounce. Two of Grandpa's dearest friends and his Bishop came to the care home. We reminisced about Grandpa's amazing life, and his tremendous Christ-like qualities. The mortician, who had known Grandpa for decades, arrived to lovingly take his body away.
I flew home Monday to be with the children and began preparations for a return trip to California, Thursday-Saturday, so Mr. Bloomers and I could gather with family and friends for Grandpa's funeral on Friday.
I was one of the speakers. Just as I have put off this post, I put off writing the talk until the middle of the night before the funeral. I finally got to bed somewhere between 4:30 and 5 AM Chicago time. I think somehow I wanted to believe that if I didn't write about Grandpa's death, that it wouldn't be real.
Grandpa has been the rock of our family for 95 years. He made us all feel like we were his favorite. He reached out in love and took a genuine interest in all people: family, friends, and strangers. He accepted and loved us for who we were, but yet encouraged us to be better and empowered us to believe that we could be.
Grandpa lived his life as a true disciple of Jesus Christ. I know better what it would be like to be in the presence of my Savior and feel of his love, because I know how Grandpa loved me.
And I know he still does.
Though my heart aches knowing that I can never again call his home and hear his cheerful and enthusiastic greeting, I am filled with joy to know that his mother and father finally have their eight children gathered with them again, that Grandma has her husband of 72 earthly years together, and that Kathy has her parents to be with her.
Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ, his resurrection and power over death, and the Priesthood, families can be forever.
This I know and do not doubt, but though this knowledge eases the pain of loss it does not take it away.
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Keep the faith
Tuesday night my Mom called to let me know that Grandpa was in the hospital.
Wednesday I booked a flight.
Thursday afternoon I left the kids at a kind friend's home, got a ride from the next-door neighbor to the airport, and came on my way.
I spent much of Friday in the hospital with Grandpa.
Today he moved back to the fabulous care facility where he has been since November--the same home in which Grandma spent her last year. Hospice came in. They've been so kind. And the people who work in the care home love Grandpa too and care so lovingly for him.
The hospice nurse let us know at about 11:30 this morning that she felt he probably only had a few hours. Yet he hung on all day. Tonight at 9 PM we held family prayer and left. He is comfortable and peaceful, and though I wanted to stay with him to hold on, I think he would have prefered to have a bit of space.
I know he's not alone, not just because those in the care home love him and will check in, but because I know Grandma, Aunt Kathy, his parents, and his siblings are all looking forward to having him with them again.
But I'll still miss him. I can't imagine him not being just a phone call away, to listen to all I have to share, provide encouragement, and remind me to "Keep the faith."
I love you Grandpa, and I'm deeply grateful that I could be home to hold your hand, even if you couldn't tell me that you loved me too. After a lifetime as your granddaughter, I know without words how you feel about me, and I'll make you proud.
I'll keep the faith.
Wednesday I booked a flight.
Thursday afternoon I left the kids at a kind friend's home, got a ride from the next-door neighbor to the airport, and came on my way.
I spent much of Friday in the hospital with Grandpa.
Today he moved back to the fabulous care facility where he has been since November--the same home in which Grandma spent her last year. Hospice came in. They've been so kind. And the people who work in the care home love Grandpa too and care so lovingly for him.
The hospice nurse let us know at about 11:30 this morning that she felt he probably only had a few hours. Yet he hung on all day. Tonight at 9 PM we held family prayer and left. He is comfortable and peaceful, and though I wanted to stay with him to hold on, I think he would have prefered to have a bit of space.
I know he's not alone, not just because those in the care home love him and will check in, but because I know Grandma, Aunt Kathy, his parents, and his siblings are all looking forward to having him with them again.
But I'll still miss him. I can't imagine him not being just a phone call away, to listen to all I have to share, provide encouragement, and remind me to "Keep the faith."
I love you Grandpa, and I'm deeply grateful that I could be home to hold your hand, even if you couldn't tell me that you loved me too. After a lifetime as your granddaughter, I know without words how you feel about me, and I'll make you proud.
I'll keep the faith.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Recommended reading
Can you believe my little girl is so old?
She was recently in a Girl Scout fashion show and I let her wear a touch of lip gloss, bronzer, and mascara so she wouldn't be drowned out in lights.
Anyway, now that the Actress is 10, she is reading more and more books I'm unfamiliar with...which means I've been getting familiar with more and more new books.
If you like fantasy, I thought I'd pass on the top three series I've more recently discovered along with her:
1. The Secrets of the Immortal Nicholas Flamel by Michael Scott
2. Fablehaven by Brandon Mull
3. Sisters Grimm by Michael Buckley
They do get intense in places, and I would not recommend them for kids younger than ten or twelve, but I found them rather enjoyable and so did she. I like knowing what my kids are reading. It provides for meaningful conversations and connections between us, and puts me in a position to discuss some of the more difficult themes with her and help her process them.
For good measure, I'll recommend one more which could be enjoyed by children probably as young as eight:
The Theodosia series books by R.L. LaFevers
Happy reading!!!
She was recently in a Girl Scout fashion show and I let her wear a touch of lip gloss, bronzer, and mascara so she wouldn't be drowned out in lights.
Anyway, now that the Actress is 10, she is reading more and more books I'm unfamiliar with...which means I've been getting familiar with more and more new books.
If you like fantasy, I thought I'd pass on the top three series I've more recently discovered along with her:
1. The Secrets of the Immortal Nicholas Flamel by Michael Scott
2. Fablehaven by Brandon Mull
3. Sisters Grimm by Michael Buckley
They do get intense in places, and I would not recommend them for kids younger than ten or twelve, but I found them rather enjoyable and so did she. I like knowing what my kids are reading. It provides for meaningful conversations and connections between us, and puts me in a position to discuss some of the more difficult themes with her and help her process them.
For good measure, I'll recommend one more which could be enjoyed by children probably as young as eight:
The Theodosia series books by R.L. LaFevers
Happy reading!!!
Sunday, March 20, 2011
On reasons why I love this boy...
Because he says things like, "I wish we had an alligator. And then if I had a real sword I would fight him."
And, "I wish I were a real ninja. In this world."
And, "I wish I were a real ninja. In this world."
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
The Magic of Two
The tantrums aren't my favorite part, but two year olds are so full of life and wonder that I can't help but adore this phase.
This one is particularly full of it. Darling, but she can't be trusted.
Yesterday Princess was standing on the bar in the basement getting her groove on. A friend of mine told her to get down. With a resounding "no" she explained that she was "shaking her bootie." I usually get "No. Never." And then I intercede.
A few weeks ago a friend of the Actress taught Princess this most marvelous joke:
"Guess what?"
"What?"
"Chicken butt?"
I don't even let the kids use that word...I insist on bum or rear end as I think the other term is a bit rude. As it is, for a pint-sized peanut Princess has a HUGE voice. And she laughs outrageously when she thinks she's funny. So we all laugh, and the vicious joke cycle continues.
Sigh.
If only she could stay this little forever.
This one is particularly full of it. Darling, but she can't be trusted.
Yesterday Princess was standing on the bar in the basement getting her groove on. A friend of mine told her to get down. With a resounding "no" she explained that she was "shaking her bootie." I usually get "No. Never." And then I intercede.
A few weeks ago a friend of the Actress taught Princess this most marvelous joke:
"Guess what?"
"What?"
"Chicken butt?"
I don't even let the kids use that word...I insist on bum or rear end as I think the other term is a bit rude. As it is, for a pint-sized peanut Princess has a HUGE voice. And she laughs outrageously when she thinks she's funny. So we all laugh, and the vicious joke cycle continues.
Sigh.
If only she could stay this little forever.
Sunday, March 13, 2011
The Reveal of the BIG PROJECT!!!
If I were to list the top six things my mother taught me to do they would be (in no particular order):
1) become educated, through school and as a lifelong learner,
2) be consistent in attending church and the temple,
3) always do your best,
4) you can have anything you want in life if you are willing to pay the price with your hard work and determination,
5) work like it all depends on you and pray like it all depends on the Lord, and
6) serve others, which is the one I want to focus on. My mother is the quiet anonymous giver. She has done so many little things for people over the years without expecting anything from them in return...many times the people didn't even know it was her that had provided for their needs.
In many ways my mom and I are not alike, and my means of serving may not be her means of serving, but she taught me how to serve because she brought me along to serve with her. We visited the convalescent hospital and widows who needed a little sunshine in their lives. And she told me little stories about things she had done for people which she wouldn't want repeated, but which taught me nonetheless.
I will continue and expand on her example in my own lift, and pass along this legacy of service to my own children.
So without further adieu, I post a copy (with edits to protect our identities a bit) of the email I sent out to many many of our friends and relatives today:
My Dear Friends,
We need your help. Our family has embarked on a service adventure, spearheading a series of fantastic charity projects to benefit children. In case you couldn’t tell, I really love children and this year I want my children to serve side by side with Mr. Bloomers and me and our friends and neighbors as we proactively assist some wonderful organizations to serve children in need.
I know many of you already volunteer in a number of ways, and we think that’s awesome. We hope you will have the time and/or money to join with us, and that at the very least, you will spread the word to your friends, sports teams, churches, and to anyone who can help. No volunteers will be turned away, but in order to keep our efforts coordinated, please keep us updated on how you’ve chosen to help.
So what’s on the Wilson Family Charity agenda so far?
May 6th-7th: [Our] Family Charity Great American Bake Sale held at Walgreens 2-7 PM Friday, and 9-4 PM Saturday
• Our children are so blessed, yet nearly 1 in 4 kids in America faces hunger. Share our Strength is working to change that. Read more about it here: http://gabs.strength.org/
• How you can help: spread the word, solicit local businesses for donated goods, bake goods yourself or with your children, work the sale, purchase from the sale, spread the word online (as we will have an online donation page sending calorie-free virtual cupcakes!) and pray for good weather and for those giving and receiving.
• All money raised will go directly to Share our Strength to aid them in the work of feeding hungry children in America.
Late summer-early September: [Our] Family Charity School Kits Drive
• Our children have an abundance of the tools needed for learning, yet so many children have a great desire to learn and don’t even own a pencil. LDS Philanthropies collects humanitarian aid supplies and school kits to help those in such a circumstance. See page 5 for school kit guidelines: http://www.ldsphilanthropies.org/humanitarian-services/patterns/service-project-guidelines.pdf
• How you can help: spread the word, purchase school supplies according to the guidelines (we’ve targeted the timeline of back-to-school sales), donate fabric for the bags, help sew the bags, aid in assembling the kits, and pray for those donating and receiving.
• All completed kits will be donated to LDS Philanthropies for distribution around the world, primarily to schools and orphanages and also as part of disaster relief upon occasion. One thing I love about LDS Philanthropies is that it is a volunteer organization with all costs covered by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Monetary and in kind donations are used 100% for relief of those in need.
November 12th 2-4 PM: Feed My Starving Children session reserved for [Our] Family Charity
• According to the website: Feed My Starving Children is a Christian organization committed to “Feeding God’s Starving Children Hungry in Body and Spirit.” If you have ever been to help, you have felt of the great spirit of this organization as they seek out hungry children across the world and feed them, one little bagged meal at a time. To learn more, visit: http://www.fmsc.org/
• How you can help: spread the word, let me know that you would like to volunteer (as we can take the first 85 to respond), donate to the organization and/or collect donations, and pray for those both giving and receiving.
• All monetary donations for the event will go to Feed My Starving Children. Each volunteer will pack approximately $52 worth of food. I would love for us to cover as much of that as we can ourselves and we would be happy to take along any donations you have collected even if you cannot attend.
Time and place TBD: [Our] Family Charity Talent Show and Book Drive
• More information to follow.
Last month I was privileged to volunteer again at Feed My Starving Children where I learned that FMSC will host your birthday party group. That sounds like a fabulous party to me! Unfortunately I was too late to book a party for my birthday next month, but the thought snowballed for me as I realized that I will turn 33. This was the age of our Savior Jesus Christ when he completed his mortal ministry and took upon himself the sins and sorrows of the world. He was crucified and resurrected and I know He lives. And I feel compelled to follow His example in a bigger way this year. He taught, “Suffer [or allow] the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God” (Mark 10:14). How can I better serve Him than to take care of his children and invite others to join me?
Though we volunteer as Christians, we believe that good works are good works regardless of religious beliefs or affiliations. We welcome all volunteers. We hope and pray that you will consider these projects and determine how you can help us bring relief to wonderful children who need us.
Warmly,
Mr. Bloomers, Kristin, The Actress, The Artist, Little Mommy, Max, and Princess
PS I will be sending future emails to this list about these projects (though I promise not to clutter your inbox). If you would not like to be included in future emails please let me know. Also, if you know of someone who would like to be added to the list, please send me their email address.
1) become educated, through school and as a lifelong learner,
2) be consistent in attending church and the temple,
3) always do your best,
4) you can have anything you want in life if you are willing to pay the price with your hard work and determination,
5) work like it all depends on you and pray like it all depends on the Lord, and
6) serve others, which is the one I want to focus on. My mother is the quiet anonymous giver. She has done so many little things for people over the years without expecting anything from them in return...many times the people didn't even know it was her that had provided for their needs.
In many ways my mom and I are not alike, and my means of serving may not be her means of serving, but she taught me how to serve because she brought me along to serve with her. We visited the convalescent hospital and widows who needed a little sunshine in their lives. And she told me little stories about things she had done for people which she wouldn't want repeated, but which taught me nonetheless.
I will continue and expand on her example in my own lift, and pass along this legacy of service to my own children.
So without further adieu, I post a copy (with edits to protect our identities a bit) of the email I sent out to many many of our friends and relatives today:
My Dear Friends,
We need your help. Our family has embarked on a service adventure, spearheading a series of fantastic charity projects to benefit children. In case you couldn’t tell, I really love children and this year I want my children to serve side by side with Mr. Bloomers and me and our friends and neighbors as we proactively assist some wonderful organizations to serve children in need.
I know many of you already volunteer in a number of ways, and we think that’s awesome. We hope you will have the time and/or money to join with us, and that at the very least, you will spread the word to your friends, sports teams, churches, and to anyone who can help. No volunteers will be turned away, but in order to keep our efforts coordinated, please keep us updated on how you’ve chosen to help.
So what’s on the Wilson Family Charity agenda so far?
May 6th-7th: [Our] Family Charity Great American Bake Sale held at Walgreens 2-7 PM Friday, and 9-4 PM Saturday
• Our children are so blessed, yet nearly 1 in 4 kids in America faces hunger. Share our Strength is working to change that. Read more about it here: http://gabs.strength.org/
• How you can help: spread the word, solicit local businesses for donated goods, bake goods yourself or with your children, work the sale, purchase from the sale, spread the word online (as we will have an online donation page sending calorie-free virtual cupcakes!) and pray for good weather and for those giving and receiving.
• All money raised will go directly to Share our Strength to aid them in the work of feeding hungry children in America.
Late summer-early September: [Our] Family Charity School Kits Drive
• Our children have an abundance of the tools needed for learning, yet so many children have a great desire to learn and don’t even own a pencil. LDS Philanthropies collects humanitarian aid supplies and school kits to help those in such a circumstance. See page 5 for school kit guidelines: http://www.ldsphilanthropies.org/humanitarian-services/patterns/service-project-guidelines.pdf
• How you can help: spread the word, purchase school supplies according to the guidelines (we’ve targeted the timeline of back-to-school sales), donate fabric for the bags, help sew the bags, aid in assembling the kits, and pray for those donating and receiving.
• All completed kits will be donated to LDS Philanthropies for distribution around the world, primarily to schools and orphanages and also as part of disaster relief upon occasion. One thing I love about LDS Philanthropies is that it is a volunteer organization with all costs covered by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Monetary and in kind donations are used 100% for relief of those in need.
November 12th 2-4 PM: Feed My Starving Children session reserved for [Our] Family Charity
• According to the website: Feed My Starving Children is a Christian organization committed to “Feeding God’s Starving Children Hungry in Body and Spirit.” If you have ever been to help, you have felt of the great spirit of this organization as they seek out hungry children across the world and feed them, one little bagged meal at a time. To learn more, visit: http://www.fmsc.org/
• How you can help: spread the word, let me know that you would like to volunteer (as we can take the first 85 to respond), donate to the organization and/or collect donations, and pray for those both giving and receiving.
• All monetary donations for the event will go to Feed My Starving Children. Each volunteer will pack approximately $52 worth of food. I would love for us to cover as much of that as we can ourselves and we would be happy to take along any donations you have collected even if you cannot attend.
Time and place TBD: [Our] Family Charity Talent Show and Book Drive
• More information to follow.
Last month I was privileged to volunteer again at Feed My Starving Children where I learned that FMSC will host your birthday party group. That sounds like a fabulous party to me! Unfortunately I was too late to book a party for my birthday next month, but the thought snowballed for me as I realized that I will turn 33. This was the age of our Savior Jesus Christ when he completed his mortal ministry and took upon himself the sins and sorrows of the world. He was crucified and resurrected and I know He lives. And I feel compelled to follow His example in a bigger way this year. He taught, “Suffer [or allow] the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God” (Mark 10:14). How can I better serve Him than to take care of his children and invite others to join me?
Though we volunteer as Christians, we believe that good works are good works regardless of religious beliefs or affiliations. We welcome all volunteers. We hope and pray that you will consider these projects and determine how you can help us bring relief to wonderful children who need us.
Warmly,
Mr. Bloomers, Kristin, The Actress, The Artist, Little Mommy, Max, and Princess
PS I will be sending future emails to this list about these projects (though I promise not to clutter your inbox). If you would not like to be included in future emails please let me know. Also, if you know of someone who would like to be added to the list, please send me their email address.
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Seven principles for making family dinners work for you and your family
Does sitting down for dinner as a family really matter? Does it matter what you eat? What you talk about? How long you sit?
Study after study has shown the benefits of the family dinner, from reducing the likelihood that teens will have substance abuse problems, to accounting for higher grades and more responsible behavior. Yet in today’s fast-paced hectic world how does a mom bring the family together for a sit-down meal?
If you’re like me, you entered marriage without any meaningful training on how to be a homemaker. We ate a lot of takeout and microwave meals during my childhood, often taking them to our bedrooms to eat alone in front of the TV. Imagine how overwhelming it was for me to face pulling the family together to plan, prepare, and eat dinner in unity? Add five young children and a husband who works long hours to my inexperience and it seemed a daunting task.
It’s taken patience and practice, but I’ve made it work. And if I can do it, so can you . . . if you follow these seven simple principles: (1) make it a priority, (2) plan ahead, (3) involve the kids, (4) be fully present, (5) have meaningful conversations, (6) set the example, and (7) make it fun.
1) Make it a priority: When you make family dinner a priority you send a clear message to your children that they matter and that family unity matters. Children appreciate the routine and stability of knowing that the family—parents and children—will eat together every day. Even if only part of the family can be there due to work or other demands, move forward and stick to the routine.
2) Plan ahead: Plan your menu in advance. Simple meals are okay. Remember protein, whole grains, and lots of fruits and veggies. The healthiest foods for your family are those that are the least processed. These are usually found towards the outer walls of the grocery store. Think real potatoes rather than potatoes in a box, brown rice over Rice-A-Roni, and fresh chicken breasts over processed chicken nuggets. Frozen fruits and veggies are nutritionally equivalent to fresh. Web sites such as allrecipes.com offer loads of tried-and-true (and simple) ideas. Plan the weeks’ meals with your calendar, assigning simple or crockpot meals to busier days.
3) Involve the kids: Give each child one or two days per week to help plan the menu and let them be your special helper that day. As they get older they can take more responsibility, doing most or all of the meal preparation on their own. Most ten year olds can use the oven with good oven mitts. Most eight year olds can measure ingredients independently and wash fruit. Most five year olds can peel zucchini and dump premeasured ingredients. Most two year olds can help set the table by laying out forks, spoons, or napkins. Our family rule is we sit and eat until we’re done and then each person clears his or her own plate, putting it into the dishwasher if possible.
4) Be fully present: Set the expectation that all members of the family be at the table with the family. Electronic devices, books, and toys are not invited, and ignore the phone if it rings. The successful family dinner is not simply about eating at home at the same time, it’s about strengthening family bonds. Being fully present is crucial.
5) Have meaningful conversations: Ask the children about their favorite parts of the day. Ask them to share what they learned that day that they didn’t know before. Tell them something you learned. Share world events. Do not feel like you need to talk down to them. Use sophisticated language when appropriate, stopping to define words as necessary. You’ll stretch their minds. Recite poetry. Tell stories. Ask them all to share their favorite color, or food, or what they want to be when they grow up. Engage one another. And don’t forget to listen. Truly listen to what other family members have to say. You might learn something new or at least something new about your child or spouse.
6) Set the example: If you want your children to eat their veggies, eat yours first! If you want them to focus on you when you are speaking, focus on them when they speak, and expect other family members to do the same. If you want your children to speak with kindness and respect to each other and to you, take the lead and show them how it’s done. Though it may seem trite and too often repeated, example does speak louder than words.
7) Make it fun: Family dinner is supposed to be fun, not stressful! Be flexible, and change it up sometimes. Eat cold cereal and fruit smoothies by candlelight. Build a fort with four chairs and a fitted king or queen size sheet and eat hotdogs, bananas, and smores inside. Have a finger foods theme, or celebrate more obscure holidays, like Dr. Suess’ birthday.
The best laid plans don’t always go as planned. Sometimes the children argue through the whole meal. Sometimes the chicken gets burned. Sometimes you just run out of time and energy and the best you can do is PBJ. Don’t sweat it. Consistency matters and it will pay off. You’ll have a stronger, more unified family and the rewards will be well worth your effort.
***So we really do eat dinner as a family, but apparently I don't take pictures of it. Just pictures of outrageous desserts. :)
Thursday, March 10, 2011
I could use the jaws of life about now...
So tonight Mr. Bloomers and I attended a little attorney/client dinner event. (Special thanks to Aunt Stephanie for taking over tonight and putting up with the sassy girly attitudes of the children who think they know everything.)
Anyhow, the first difficulty of an event like this is: WHAT DO I WEAR? The dress code was business casual/cocktail attire. What does the slash even mean? Which is it?Can I wear pants? Should I wear a dress? A skirt?
And since the more fashionable clothing in my closet seems to have recently shrunken down a couple of sizes, this was an even bigger dilemma. I am practical over fashionable, though I do try to maintain a facade that I'm pulled together (amazing what a necklace can do). I really didn't want to go shopping for this dinner, but after trying on some items in the closet, I realized that I was going to have to cave.
This week only allowed for a quick in and out at Kohl's. I bought nearly $400 worth of stuff, at Kohls's prices people. That is a whole lot of pieces. Surely I would have picked up something that would be within the dress code and fit decently. Surely.
I came up with one sweater out of the whole lot.
Since wearing only a sweater seemed a bit risque, I delved back into the closet. Fortuneately there was one dress that would be acceptable if paired with the new sweater. Whew.
But here's the clincher: At the risk that this confession will make me seem all Oprah with the yo-yo body weight, I'm sporting a couple of belly rolls at this time. And I could only pull this outfit together if I tamed said belly rolls. So I did.
Control top nylons. Body shaping tank top. Body slimming slip.
By the end of the dinner I was feeling so compressed that I think my internal organs are bruised. I confided in Mr. Bloomers about the secret of my pain and suffering during the drive home. At this point, I don't know if I will even be able to get out, which is why I'm still dressed nearly two hours later.
Ah, the price of beauty! On the bright side, Gibson's grills some truly brilliant filet mignon. And the company turned out to be very pleasant too.
If I could only breathe properly, all would seem right in the world.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
"Big Project" in the works
I'm not running another marathon. I'm not pregnant. As much as the writing class was a great idea, I will not complete the course on time and will instead do it on my own at a slower pace. The book I had an idea about will wait for another season. I just have way more ideas than time and means to pull them together.
At this time I feel led to undertake a year-long project starting next month. As soon as I have the details together I'll be sure to share. I'll need volunteers to help me pull it all together.
In the meantime, I'm using this time of Lent to draw closer to my Savior to be sure I am where I ought to be in my relationship with Him before moving forward.
And no, Mormons don't generally observe Lent. Two years ago I had a very positive experience after studying up on the purposes and practicies of Lent and I feel like such an observance would be very beneficial at this time for me.
My Lenten observance will begin and end with a day of fasting.
I will give up chocolate (I know!!) and staying up unreasonably late.
I will delve into the scriptures more deeply, feasting upon the word with a hunger born of chocolate cravings (intense, BELIEVE me).
I will pray on my knees everyday in private, taking care that my prayers are thoughtful and meaningful.
I will serve and minister to those around me, putting forth more of my time and resources to care for those less fortunate than I am, and increasing my efforts to see my children and husband as God sees them (treating them accordingly).
I won't openly confess just how much chocolate I've ingested in the last couple of months. It's truly staggering. Just please be patient if I seem a bit short and grumpy this week during the withdrawal phrase.
At this time I feel led to undertake a year-long project starting next month. As soon as I have the details together I'll be sure to share. I'll need volunteers to help me pull it all together.
In the meantime, I'm using this time of Lent to draw closer to my Savior to be sure I am where I ought to be in my relationship with Him before moving forward.
And no, Mormons don't generally observe Lent. Two years ago I had a very positive experience after studying up on the purposes and practicies of Lent and I feel like such an observance would be very beneficial at this time for me.
My Lenten observance will begin and end with a day of fasting.
I will give up chocolate (I know!!) and staying up unreasonably late.
I will delve into the scriptures more deeply, feasting upon the word with a hunger born of chocolate cravings (intense, BELIEVE me).
I will pray on my knees everyday in private, taking care that my prayers are thoughtful and meaningful.
I will serve and minister to those around me, putting forth more of my time and resources to care for those less fortunate than I am, and increasing my efforts to see my children and husband as God sees them (treating them accordingly).
I won't openly confess just how much chocolate I've ingested in the last couple of months. It's truly staggering. Just please be patient if I seem a bit short and grumpy this week during the withdrawal phrase.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
You get what you pay for
When the Actress started in the magnet gifted classroom last fall we quickly realized that our ancient and unreliable computer would simply not be up to par for the many projects which required her to be researching online or typing lengthy reports. The kid had to have a flash drive and we would have to bit the bullet and purchase a new computer.
One of our favorite features of this house is the office off of the master bedroom. We've loved having our computer up there and out of the reach of the little fingers.
But knowing how much time the Actress would now be required to spend on the new computer, it was time to reorganize the family room, kicking the train table to the basement to make space for a computer desk. We are firm believers that children on the computer should be in a public space.
I didn't want to move our office chairs downstairs. They are just too big! I also didn't want to spend a lot on chairs. One day at Target I found the perfect solution: two black folding chairs that would match the space and be easy to fold and move when we're ready to rock out to Camp Rock 2. AND they were on back to college clearance for only $6.50 each!
Mr. Bloomers was NOT a fan. He thought the chairs were cheap and uncomfortable. But since he is never bothered by what I purchase enough to actually take over the purchasing himself, he lived with my finds.
Apparently his passive aggressive behavior recently became too aggresive. One of the chairs met a sad fate:
(For the record, I don't really think he did it on purpose.)
And to be fair, he did have two kids on his lap.
Maybe I'll have to spend a little more on the next set of chairs.
One of our favorite features of this house is the office off of the master bedroom. We've loved having our computer up there and out of the reach of the little fingers.
But knowing how much time the Actress would now be required to spend on the new computer, it was time to reorganize the family room, kicking the train table to the basement to make space for a computer desk. We are firm believers that children on the computer should be in a public space.
I didn't want to move our office chairs downstairs. They are just too big! I also didn't want to spend a lot on chairs. One day at Target I found the perfect solution: two black folding chairs that would match the space and be easy to fold and move when we're ready to rock out to Camp Rock 2. AND they were on back to college clearance for only $6.50 each!
Mr. Bloomers was NOT a fan. He thought the chairs were cheap and uncomfortable. But since he is never bothered by what I purchase enough to actually take over the purchasing himself, he lived with my finds.
Apparently his passive aggressive behavior recently became too aggresive. One of the chairs met a sad fate:
(For the record, I don't really think he did it on purpose.)
And to be fair, he did have two kids on his lap.
Maybe I'll have to spend a little more on the next set of chairs.
Friday, March 4, 2011
Got a nose picker?
I just got an email alerting me to reward charts from Chuck E Cheese. I clicked through to see what my kids might do to earn 10 tokens and found this "No nose picking" calendar: "Go two weeks and you're a winner!"
Would you want to allow your child to turn this in? I guess Chuck E Cheese would prefer not to have guests that pick their noses before playing the games.
But I still thought nose-picking was a private issue. Leave it to Chuck E. to tackle the tough kid issues right out in the open.
(Maybe this wouldn't have been so funny to me if I had gone to bed at a reasonable time last night rather than being up till all hours of slap-happy. On that note...heading to bed.)
Would you want to allow your child to turn this in? I guess Chuck E Cheese would prefer not to have guests that pick their noses before playing the games.
But I still thought nose-picking was a private issue. Leave it to Chuck E. to tackle the tough kid issues right out in the open.
(Maybe this wouldn't have been so funny to me if I had gone to bed at a reasonable time last night rather than being up till all hours of slap-happy. On that note...heading to bed.)
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
The Biggest Picture in the Whole World!
Because five children and a dog are not enough (seriously), we have an extra along for a couple of days. No, I didn't kidnap her, but with both parents out of state another little one is bunking in here at the Fun House.
Though the schoolday was packed, we had nothing planned for the afternoon, and since six children left activity-free for 4 hours are almost sure to end up attacking one another, I determined that we needed something big to focus on which might unite us rather than conquer us (or me, as the case may be).
I dashed into Blick with the youngest three en route to pick up the bigger kids and WOW that is one awesome store. I had never been there, but they sure won me over!
Though the schoolday was packed, we had nothing planned for the afternoon, and since six children left activity-free for 4 hours are almost sure to end up attacking one another, I determined that we needed something big to focus on which might unite us rather than conquer us (or me, as the case may be).
I dashed into Blick with the youngest three en route to pick up the bigger kids and WOW that is one awesome store. I had never been there, but they sure won me over!
The salesperson that helped us was FANTASTICALLY nice. Patient to unlock the restroom. Patient as I kept reminding Princess not to sit on canvases. And patient as I dealt with the boy's biggest tantrum EVER. (I wish I were exaggerating.) AND she loaded Little Mommy up with six free shirts...to be used as art smocks of course!
We gathered tempura paints in a slew of ever-mixable colors (though we forgot the black, but I'll blame that on my being distracted by the screaming, writhing, kicking, hysterical mass of son I was hauling about).
(I gave him the outline of a house, by request, but otherwise this was Max's own talent at work.)
And brushes.
(That's our dog!)
And Ramona-sized paper.
(That's a house with a darling person inside, and a tree too!)
I told the kids the rules were to keep each brush in only one color, and to be kind about everyone else's art. They were all to paint whatever they wanted, but not to criticize the others.
(The Actress went very geometric, printing shapes from the computer, cutting them out, tracing and marking, and then finally painting. That kind of art takes a long time so she has some sections left for another day.)
And then I made them repeat, "I promise to be nice and have fun," before cutting them loose. (After the first one said it and received a fun size Kit Kat the others were duly motivated to play along.)
(That's a cozy log cabin.)
And we painted and painted and painted...the floor, the paper, and their arms and hands, making a masterpiece...truly masterful because it was created piece by piece by an extraordinary group of young artists empowered with brushes and color.
(She may have called it I Painting.)
And I was even a little inspired by the fun (and the gobs of unused paints left by "helpers" who decided to pour a "little" extra paint all by themselves). I call it Feeling Dotty, which is how the floor still looks.
Capturing these moments of creation and joy seemed somehow more important (and fun) than scrubbing a little scattered paint. Life is all about priorities.
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